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snail INFP
Joined: Sep 9, 10
Status Level: 1 |
2010-09-10 00:00:44 |
| A good date is when I immediately feel connected with the other person, as though we have known each other all of our lives. No matter what topic comes up, there is a sense of unity, and that strange, rare, wonderful feeling of being understood and accepted by someone who is also grateful to be understood and accepted by me. We are comfortable being silly, okay with silent moments in the conversation, and feel safe being fully authentic together. It doesn't really matter where we are, what we are doing, or whether anything goes according to plan, as long as we feel this connection. A bad date is someone who makes me feel guarded and closed-off, for whatever reason. The date might be sexually or socially pushy, trying to coerce me to do things I don't feel like. He might disrespect my introversion by trying to pull me out of my "shell." He might make it clear that he considers all women to be pretty much alike, values then for superficial reasons, and views them as interchangeable. This kind of guy will never satisfy someone as eccentric as I am. Another kind of bad date is the kind where every topic that comes up leads to another tedious debate, so that I feel tense and cautious the whole time. This usually happens with intellectuals. If they don't turn me off by trying to pick a fight on the first date, they will inevitably turn me on, becoming my doom. I am easily drawn to them, and they are the equivalent of what a "bad boy" would be for a more physically oriented person. They tend to fall hard for me, only to be disappointed months after they have managed to attract me, because they have no idea how to deal with my emotional sensitivity. Eventually they give up in frustration, or I am forced to withdraw in order to avoid the implosive disaster loops we create together. |
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Barbarian
Joined: Sep 15, 10
Status Level: 1 |
2010-09-15 21:52:27 |
| Bad date = Scarfs down food like it's the first meal of the day. Or talks about money; politics; environment; god; sex; taxes; etc. All signs of a totally neurotic drag or a loon. Good date = Where no particular detail stands out because you had a good time that you want to experience again. |
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Josh32
Joined: Jul 19, 11
Status Level: 1 |
2011-07-19 13:25:26 |
| K...what do you guys thinK? I went out for drinks with a girl Id been talking to online for a month or so...she suggested we meet Friday night for a drink to actually meet. We met and talked for an 90 minutes or so...good conversation we both our into sports and Cleveland teams..there were a few silences but usually not long as either she or I would ask a question or start talking about something..During our talk she would reach and touch me arm briefly. After 90 min or so she got a call and said she had to leave as her roommate locked herself out of the house..we hugged and she left..She later texted and aplogized for having to leave and said shed call me the next day and see if I was up for lunch..she never called and later said she was sick all day..the date seemed to go good we talked laughed and it felt good...but we havent talked much since, where as before we were texting everyday...what do you guys think? sorry so long just wanted to include all the details | |
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