Why is sense of humor important?
Thread Topic: Why is sense of humor important?
Admin James
Hoboken, NJ
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2008-04-03 12:39:04 |
From the Seattle Times:"If you think of any social relationship, shared laughter is one of the markers of success," said humor expert John Morreall, a professor at the College of William and Mary in Virginia. "A person who tries to be funny and doesn't get a response from the other person, that's real failure." Why do you think humor plays such an important role in dating? The article goes on to suggest that we use humor to break the ice, to stand out, and to determine compatability. It also suggests that there are gender roles at play, where the man is looking for a match who laughs at his jokes, while the woman is looking for a man who makes her laugh. Do you find this to be the case in your own experience? |
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Wacky Warrior
Monett, MO
Joined: May 10, 08 Status Level: 1 |
2008-05-10 08:53:07 |
| Most definately!!!! When the meal is over and there is that silent ackward moment when either person is trying to think of the next conversation topic,a very appropriate funny joke or past happening just creates the relaxed atmosphere most needed. Couples, whether long-term or newly formed, need to know that the other person finds them humorously compatible. We need that ego boost that we get when the other person truly finds us acceptable when we open our mouth to speak. We want to know that we are appreciated beyond the physical actions that are shared. And it is so true that "Laughter is The Best Medicine". If we can make others laugh, from the gut, with us and not at us, and we are comfortable enough around them that if they are laughing at us, we can truly laugh with them at the same time, then we have a successful relationship, whether it be with friends or a loved one, they are keepers. JMHO |
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lekkermeisje
Salem, OR
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2008-06-10 02:58:22 |
| Humor is probablly linked with the whole "I am friendly" thing. You can see it most in dogs when they get into "play mode" with eachother. They are saying "I am nice and won't fight you". However, there is more to the human joke thing, intelligence plays a part as well as cultural norms. We need to beable to identify with eachother on a ground level and humor is one way of testing the waters of that level. Yes, a funny guy is more attractive, but that is different for every person. Thing is don't sweat it 'cause someone will find you funny even when you aren't trying. |
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happygolucky44
Gainesville, FL
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2009-04-03 15:42:25 |
| I just read today how humor is so important in the bed room! Which is so true! So if you can’t laugh in a semi-awkward situation - date - then the sex life may, not always, be way too serious! So why wouldn’t we, as humans, search out people we know can laugh at or jokes, laugh with us to our errors, and generally keep their wits about them! I defiantly agree with the article. I certainly don’t want to strive for the gently softened video images, of two hairless gymnasts, enacting such a serious sensual encounter as not to speak but in whispers! Until que’d by stage-right! Its like they are professionals in a boardroom doing "busy"ness! haha...irony. Life isn’t to much like that, sure there are rare, romantic moments of love making. But when you’ve been married for several years…have fun…AND get off! Kill two birds! lol I mean noises happen, you can be right in the middle of the m"O"ment and knock heads...or fart! I mean "where the hell did that ceiling fan come from!!" Your ass in the air, ankles by your head...staring at each other naked...while the once romantic candles that provided the erotic glow of light now have become a furnace that is causing you to lose 16pounds! This is a comedy! Humor...helping nerds propagate themselves since 1783. lol *Disclaimer….foreplay has been completed (check)….when the candles were just candles. lol |
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san andres
Middleville, MI
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2009-04-06 04:02:45 |
| In my own experience I've come across girls that put a high value on whether or not I can make them laugh before becoming interested (the largest group) and girls that seemed like they couldn't care less, and to be honest they were a little more rare. Maybe most people look for laughter while a small minority look for other things first. | |
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arwen
Sugar Land, TX
Joined: Feb 24, 09 Status Level: 2 |
2009-05-04 13:34:31 |
| wow, i cant tell you how many times my girls come to me all embarrassed cuz they farted or queefed during sex and they like awkwardly laughed and the guy just hurried himself along and left.... its so terrible. lol. but i told them to just laugh it off and be cute about it. thats the only thing you can really do | |
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singingteacher
Brighton, TN
Joined: Apr 14, 09 Status Level: 1 |
2009-05-04 15:24:53 |
| We all have those quirks that will never go away. Better to smile, have a laugh, and enjoy the moment(s) than to ruin a night by being uptight. | |
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arwen
Sugar Land, TX
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2009-05-06 12:58:51 |
| true! oh my god! | |
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TalentWasted
Tacoma, WA
Joined: May 4, 09 Status Level: 1 |
2009-05-06 19:27:19 |
| I think in general people just need to lighten up, not just in relationsips. Live a care free happy life and you life longer, stress out about everything and you die younger. besides Life is just too short anyways, we all end up in the dead centre of town anyways, so enjoy the time you have on earth, good or bad! | |
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arwen
Sugar Land, TX
Joined: Feb 24, 09 Status Level: 2 |
2009-05-19 13:16:04 |
| heck ya! for real, so many people waste it on stupid s h i t, including myself. i wish people (myself included) would wake up and just realize its not all a huge deal. we all make mistakes, and essentially if you cant ever laugh at them you are going to be miserable. i laugh now at how i abused drugs, cuz it was stupid and i learned from it. i laugh it off when i get a mean text from an ex that broke my heart because it really doesnt matter anymore, and i get them almost every day anyways. i know im can be a s l u t sometimes and i lie every now and then. no one is completely and totally honest 100%. but i know who i am, and i know that im about to go crazy from knowing everyone in my town if i dont get out of here. so i laugh as i go through school these last few weeks, and im leaving as soon as i can. see? sense of humor right there | |
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singingteacher
Brighton, TN
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2009-05-26 01:41:42 |
| It's hard to hear from an ex, especially if they are sending crude emails. Sometimes ignoring them are best, but then if it continues, you should really tell him or her to stop. Not only is a sense of humor important, but sensitivity to the other person. We have touched on this topic but not delved into it. I am talking about knowing when to stop talking or change the subject. Some people haven't learned this skill. My best friend is one of them. |
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DeerHunter
Joined: Jun 15, 09
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2009-06-15 18:17:43 |
| Well yeah if you want someone to laugh love and like you YES! | |
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arwen
Joined: Feb 24, 09
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2009-06-16 02:41:16 |
| yes to what? | |
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