Why is sense of humor important?
Thread Topic: Why is sense of humor important?
Admin James
Hoboken, NJ
Joined: Mar 28, 08 Status Level: 1 |
2008-04-03 12:39:04 |
From the Seattle Times:"If you think of any social relationship, shared laughter is one of the markers of success," said humor expert John Morreall, a professor at the College of William and Mary in Virginia. "A person who tries to be funny and doesn't get a response from the other person, that's real failure." Why do you think humor plays such an important role in dating? The article goes on to suggest that we use humor to break the ice, to stand out, and to determine compatability. It also suggests that there are gender roles at play, where the man is looking for a match who laughs at his jokes, while the woman is looking for a man who makes her laugh. Do you find this to be the case in your own experience? |
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Wacky Warrior
Monett, MO
Joined: May 10, 08 Status Level: 1 |
2008-05-10 08:53:07 |
| Most definately!!!! When the meal is over and there is that silent ackward moment when either person is trying to think of the next conversation topic,a very appropriate funny joke or past happening just creates the relaxed atmosphere most needed. Couples, whether long-term or newly formed, need to know that the other person finds them humorously compatible. We need that ego boost that we get when the other person truly finds us acceptable when we open our mouth to speak. We want to know that we are appreciated beyond the physical actions that are shared. And it is so true that "Laughter is The Best Medicine". If we can make others laugh, from the gut, with us and not at us, and we are comfortable enough around them that if they are laughing at us, we can truly laugh with them at the same time, then we have a successful relationship, whether it be with friends or a loved one, they are keepers. JMHO |
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lekkermeisje
Salem, OR
Joined: May 21, 08 Status Level: 1 |
2008-06-10 02:58:22 |
| Humor is probablly linked with the whole "I am friendly" thing. You can see it most in dogs when they get into "play mode" with eachother. They are saying "I am nice and won't fight you". However, there is more to the human joke thing, intelligence plays a part as well as cultural norms. We need to beable to identify with eachother on a ground level and humor is one way of testing the waters of that level. Yes, a funny guy is more attractive, but that is different for every person. Thing is don't sweat it 'cause someone will find you funny even when you aren't trying. |
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