What do i do....
Thread Topic: What do i do....
Izzy
Newark, DE
Joined: May 11, 09 Status Level: 1 |
2009-05-11 01:27:51 |
| I lost someone very special to me a year ago, we now have a two year old. She has lied to me during our seven year relationship...is she worth fighting for? Please help | |
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TalentWasted
Tacoma, WA
Joined: May 4, 09 Status Level: 1 |
2009-05-12 00:01:39 |
| well only you can really decide that, weight the pros and cons, if you feel that is worth the chance of getting hurt again then go for it. If you feel you could not bare having that pain of losing her again, stay close, but not at a couple. Sometimes friendship is the best thing to have at the end. Only you can decide if she is worth it. Listen to what your heart says and you will never be disappointed. :) |
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arwen
Sugar Land, TX
Joined: Feb 24, 09 Status Level: 2 |
2009-05-13 13:17:50 |
| wow man. this really is tough. all i can say is seven years is a long time to lie to someone, but you have a child to consider. try seperate living arrangements in the house, and start over dating wise. but be true to you, and dont forget the child. she is a piece of you, so remember to take her into your best interests. much love, arwen |
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singingteacher
Brighton, TN
Joined: Apr 14, 09 Status Level: 2 |
2009-05-14 00:07:16 |
| Izzy, I agree with Arwen. There is obviously some pain and hurt that must be worked through and talked about before the relationship can heal. Talent is also right, because only you and your significant other can decide if the relationship is worth salvaging. If the answer is yes, you have to talk through the difficulties you have, i.e the lie, and make a fresh start. And from my work with children as a teacher, don't stay together just for the child's sake. This hurts the child more in the long run than if you part on amiable terms and can have a working relationship as the child grows up rather than staying together just for the child and the child coming to this knowledge... | |
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arwen
Sugar Land, TX
Joined: Feb 24, 09 Status Level: 2 |
2009-05-19 13:06:16 |
| thats true. i meant though if he wanted toactually try and work it out that was an option of how he might go about it. most of my friends are children of divorced parents, and they are not much worse off. i would rather my family do that than grow up with anger and pain my whole childhood. | |
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