Do I HAVE to be a "bad boy" to get women?
Thread Topic: Do I HAVE to be a "bad boy" to get women?
Gabo
Reading, PR
Joined: Apr 13, 08 Status Level: 1 |
2008-04-13 13:05:56 |
| Well, I wonder, because there's this, like terrible guys who drink and smoke and make a mess of everything, and this are the guys women talk about...as a their current relationship. Sometimes I get the impression women don't want "good men", just "bad men" who they can turn into good men, like a building project. Is this just a perception? | |
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Rosie
Roseburg, OR
Joined: Apr 14, 08 Status Level: 1 |
2008-04-14 11:31:57 |
| No you don't have to be a bad boy to get a woman. Some women get trapped in bad relationships and don't know how to feel when someone treats them right. So they tend to stick in that bad cycle. Be your self and I am sure you will find the right girl for you. | |
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strat68ntx
Hereford, TX
Joined: Apr 29, 08 Status Level: 1 |
2008-04-29 13:57:56 |
| Well...the thing is, I am a bad boy. I drink and smoke, but I somehow manage to NOT make a mess of everything. The reason behind the problem you are having has to do with the men women are attracted to and the ones they aren't. To many women, there are four types of guys. 1."Not in a million years!" 2."Have sex with" guys 3."Have relationship with" guys 4."Have sex and relationship with" guys. You want to be one of those number 4's. You can have a bit of the "bad boy" attitude and still be a really nice guy. If you allow the "project" thing to happen to you...she will be gone as soon as you buy into it. They want "good men", but what you think that means and what they think it means are totally different. I can help you if you want...message me. |
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Wacky Warrior
Monett, MO
Joined: May 10, 08 Status Level: 1 |
2008-05-10 08:44:07 |
| Gabo, the first thing you need to do is find a test somewhere that will tell you what type of personality you are and what typr of women you attract. You must be very honest when you take these tests or they will do you no good. Secondly, and most importantly, be yourself at all times! DO NOT try acting like you think a certain woman will want you to act. There are thousands of women out there for every personality type, all you have to do is be yourself and spend time around the type of female that is interested in YOUR TYPE. It does absolutely NO GOOD for you to hang out in bars if you are looking for a nice stay at home woman, or a nice Christian Woman to raise your kids. If you work around a lot of women, start being a constant uplifting force that they will notice. Treat EVERY WOMAN YOU MEET as if God put them on this planet for your admiration (don't get freaky), very minorly flirt by saying nice things sub-liminal comments but NO SEXUAL HARRASSMENT, the ones that are attracted to your personality type, once you settle into it alone, will make comments back to you other than Hi or How are you today. Be attuned to those being polite and those trying to strike up conversations. Don't rush it, apparently if you are having to ask this question, you are not doing something correctly, which is seeming desparate, women don't need desparate guys unless they have this need to MOTHER. The more you act as if you don't care whether a woman likes you or not, the more you will seem a challenge to them, the more you seem mysterious the more they want to know what makes you tick. Bottom Line: Be nice to every woman, even if she is NOT your type, her best friend might be and believe me, they talk! Good Luck from the OLD MAN! |
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BabyGurl
Pacolet, SC
Joined: May 19, 08 Status Level: 1 |
2008-05-19 02:51:13 |
| Hey you dont have to be a bad guy to get a woman... | |
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lekkermeisje
Salem, OR
Joined: May 21, 08 Status Level: 1 |
2008-05-22 01:40:22 |
| I always hate it when a guy hits on a woman and she turns him down and then he calls her names and harasses her. I have never seen a woman think a jerk was attractive. So be you, if you tend to be a macho jerk though, change for the better. If the woman you like thinks your not tough enough, get over it 'cause she would eventually drive you crazy. | |
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osama
Aiea, HI
Joined: May 22, 08 Status Level: 1 |
2008-05-22 08:51:38 |
| Oh yaaaaaaaaaaaaaa | |
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Grey
Texas City, TX
Joined: Jun 21, 08 Status Level: 1 |
2008-06-21 06:56:59 |
| I think women are sometimes attracted to the danger of having a relationship with a 'bad boy'. They like the thrill of it, but what any girl really wants is a nice guy that treats her right, that she she can curl up with and talk to. Any relationship with a bad boy is most often temporary, or just for the experience. If you want a lsating relationship, be kind, be gentle, and be yourself. She'll love you more for that. |
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Irishlaura
Oak Lawn, IL
Joined: Jun 29, 08 Status Level: 1 |
2008-06-29 17:38:43 |
| I am 21 and I was in relationships with 'bad boys' all the time, they seemed sweet at first and then like Rosie said I felt trapped. My boyfriend now, I know I m going to marry him by the way | |
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belladonna
Mineola, NY
Joined: Jul 16, 08 Status Level: 1 |
2008-07-18 12:02:56 |
| it doesn't work that way..and im pretty sure u know that..it just so happen that those girls met those kind of guys and well maybe fall in love with them... er, before i thought id be better of with good guys but it turn out that some of the good guys are just good guys on the outside but then i don't see myseLf as well with a BAD guy because it has been 3times already that i did get hurt, sucks eh? yeah but thats life..anyway, just relax and its just simple..BE YOURSELF AND BE BETTER..=) | |
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belladonna
Mineola, NY
Joined: Jul 16, 08 Status Level: 1 |
2008-07-18 12:04:21 |
| IM JUST NEW HERE, I DUNNO HOW TO ADD FRIENDS..HEHEH, maybe u can help me with that eh? | |
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TheLeatherman
Eagle, ID
Joined: Feb 17, 09 Status Level: 1 |
2009-02-17 18:33:26 |
| Good girls always go for the bad boys. Just a natural thing, Gabo. | |
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Vixen80
Lenexa, KS
Joined: Feb 18, 09 Status Level: 1 |
2009-02-18 23:55:34 |
| I don't know if its about being a bad boy. I think its about being independent and having the confidence to be yourself against the grind. Throw in a little altruism...now that big ball of twine would be an awesome man! | |
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Jewels
Paola, KS
Joined: Feb 12, 09 Status Level: 1 |
2009-02-19 07:22:20 |
| Definitely don't need to be a bad boy. Smoking and drinking are ok if they're not excessive (especially the drinking), but i don't want an abusive guy, though i know there are a lot of women who stick into those kinds of situations, but i'm not one of those, so i can only go from my perspective and those women that i know are single. A man should be honest, faithful (if there is a relationship of some sort involved), be fun to be around, be willing to listen and also be willing to express himself. Some of us like a little kink in the bedroom or other places in the house. Don't be afraid to discuss sex and find out what you have in common with sexual fantasies and things like that. In general, be open and expressive, don't be afraid to talk openly about sensitive subjects, and be yourself. People should like you for who you are. |
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Nastaja
New Castle, CO
Joined: Feb 19, 09 Status Level: 1 |
2009-02-19 08:14:39 |
| You don't have to be a bad boy to get a woman. If that is what you beleive than you will not get someone worth holding on to. You should give us all a fair chance and not judge us all for a few of us... People tend to make mistakes and learn from them. you will get the right gal for you, by just being you... | |
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